I am very sorry you are going through this.

I also had a problem with a strict church while trying to recover from lifelong abuse/neglect. The religious connection helped in that developing my own spirituality and faith was a big help. Getting on my knees in prayer is something I still do.

But the judgemental attitudes - what they considered as "humility" (not the same as what I think), and many other attitudes they had, were further abusive to me.

I finally left. I left many friends behind. I maintain a very lose online connection to a few.

And it was some of the worst abuse I ever had.
Again, very sorry you have been affected by this too.