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Originally Posted by Shy Introvert
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Sorry to hear about the way that you were treated growing up- I have been through a lot of similar situations in the past too. I was abused mentally, emtoionally, and sometimes physically with hitting by my parents, sister, and some of my peers. I was bullied growing up, and was bullied as an adult until recently. So all that really does mess with your head and self esteem!
You and your wife are so lucky to have each other! She sounds wonderful, and so do you! You're g.f and best friend are awesome too! Not that many people would actually go out of their way to help and actually research these issues in order to understand them A lot of people tend to shun people who are different-
As for my husband, I met him after he completed his military duty. When I met him, he was working at this company in N.Y as a truck driver at the time. He was never that much of a talker or good at communicating his feelings. He didn't even say hi to me on our first double date! So maybe this is just how he is-
Sorry to hear bout your uncle. I'm sure that both my uncle and my husband have been affected by their time in the army in some way. My husband seemed to love being in the army, so I'm not so sure about that. He's always been a bit different and odd in some ways. He doesn't have any real mental health issues, he just tends to be distant and cold at times.
Thanks for your response.
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Thanks.
I am sorry to hear you were bullied and emotionally abused.
My Wife was bullied almost every day at school when she was a kid because she was advanced and a bit overweight and some of the other students in her old classes would go out of their way to pick on her and did horrible things to her. She hated going to school because of it and she told me she didn’t have many friends back then outside of church so spent a lot of time by herself. Hailey suffered from severe depression when she was a teenager and she felt like she didn’t belong so she started cutting herself and her parents made her go to a therapist. Talking to a therapist about her problems helped her because it made her feel more confident with herself and stop worrying about how other people saw her and she chose to focus on things she was good at like art and music instead. Most of Hailey’s life has been one big battle and she was raped and got pregnant when she was 19 and as horrible as that was for her she says her daughter (Courtney) was the best thing that happened to her.
Hailey likes to live in her own world now because she thinks the real world is a yucky place and I love being a part of that world with her and our daughters. Do you and your husband have kids? We have 2 daughters and my Wife is pregnant with her third child (our second.) Our children mean everything to us and we love both of them very much and are very protective of them too. My Father was never a good role model for me growing up but if there was one good thing I learned from him it was what not to be as a Father to my children and for every time he hit me and put me down for not being the ‘normal’ son he wanted it just made me stronger. In a way I am grateful to him and other people like him because they made me want to succeed so much more in life and prove them wrong which I did.
I like being different and Hailey is far from normal. She is very kooky and my Sister (Kathy) thinks she is a fruitcake at times but she says we are soul mates. Hailey and I met each other through my sister’s best friend who is also one of Hailey’s best friends and we started out as friends and then we got engaged three years later. We never technically dated each other because Hailey never liked the term, ‘dating’ but we went out together and with my step daughter a lot as friends and I got close to both of them and things progressed from there. I apparently made quite the impression on Courtney at the time because Hailey told me she was always asking her questions about me and asking when I was coming over again and I guess I fell in love with both of them and even though Courtney isn’t my biological daughter I still love her like she is my own and she calls me Daddy now which means a lot.
My first girlfriend/best friend was awesome but she passed away when she was 17 and that was one of the things that lead to me going through depression because after her I didn’t think anyone would accept me for having disabilities like she did but I was wrong. My Great Uncle passed away way back in 2000 and my Great Auntie in 2009 and I was upset at the time especially over my Great Auntie as she was like a Grandmother to me because both my Grandmothers passed away in the 80s but I am okay now.