Hmm, I get what you're saying and I know for certain it was tearing at him and at some point, I guess I knew I'd be taking him down with me but it was already too late when I really realized it.

It saddens me of course that I can't truly share this 'new me' with him but something tells me he already sees it.

Seeing it from a new perspective, I get the feeling he's actually warming up to me or just trying to be really friendly, perhaps even attempting to become closer friends. I also think I'm starting to see a pattern forming.

He once again took the first step, as per usual and messaged me last night and whilst the conversation was short, he closed off with 'hun' again. I checked my facebook and I have notifications off because I hate the bleeping green light on my phone whenever I get a message. I found that he had actually messaged me IN THE MORNING, now that's rare ever since I started backing off.

The message itself was completely random, apparently he had gotten breakfast at mcd etc, but it does show that he felt the need or perhaps just thought about sharing this with me.

He's the kind of person who has an inner and outer circle of friends and although I've never met them and he never told me much about these friends, I know for certain he doesn't just message anyone nor talk to anyone unless it's relevant to him. He's an extremely private person.

I'm of course not going to read into it, but it's blatantly obvious he can't go long without talking to me and I think we both know why.

It's not because we're friends, because from what I've seen, yes I snooped on his phone, he doesn't message people that much. Could it be because he's lonely without me? I don't know.

Or could it just be a random coincidence? No.

Here's the pattern.

We all know the positive and negative effect we all have on each other. If you're annoyed and talk in a negative way, you'll most likely get a negative reply.

He's having a good day, he feels like talking and I reply in a positive way, keeping the waters flowing and the conversation going. He'll call me 'hun' and be very flirty.

Now, he's having a bad day and I message him, he doesn't seem responsive, so I back off and he get's pretty down about this, no 'hun' - no flirts, perhaps even no contact for a day or two.

And it's my turn to have a bad day, I don't seem too responsive when he's messaging me, he tries to flirt and I'm being rather short but friendly, he starts to do the same and the conversation just dies, no goodbye or cya's.

The following day he'll check back on me or perhaps try again in a day or two, but he's the one to initiate the contact, being flirty, trying to see if I'll take the "bait" - he'll try to get a response from me.

Whether or not I bite, one of the above will apply and it'll keep going on like that. A good day will end with a 'hun' and a bad day will end with nothing.

None of our conversations are the same, exactly because it depends on this pattern.