CosmicRose,

I know someone who is dating a vet with PTSD, this is how he is too. He was in the first troops that went into Iraq and he was injured because the vehicle he was in hit a road side bomb and the force of it broke his neck, however he is not paralyzed.

He does the same thing is lovey dovy and then pulls back. He also make excuses. It is wanting to love but afraid to love. If they experience losing friends/comrads they can really struggle with a deep inner pain of losing someone they love/care about.