It is very stressful when one is a person who really is strongly devoted to doing things right. What I remember of what you told me about how it happened that you lost your job, it was how you wanted to do something right and the uppers were not willing to do what is right. I think that what crept down inside of you with that is a deep sense of failure in having a way to address that situation where you found a way to achieve what you wanted to see happen.

In your childhood you were left in charge and it became important to you that things went right because you got a gold star when things were right, even in school too. That will set very deep impressions in the brain too where a person continuously strives to get things right. You are and always have been a person with intelligence, I have always admired that about you and even openly said how you are one of my favorite members. I love the way you examine things and look to see what is "right", you are willing to "consider" different things respectfully that are presented, however, you remain loyal to the passionate way you see/feel is "right".

Unfortunately, sometimes people do take advantage of this, and I think your S/O has as well as others. It is extremely disappointing when people do that, "it's not right" and that does rattle you. It would be one thing if this S/O kept showing appreciation, but he doesn't, maybe once in a while and that keeps you in the task, but not the true way you deserve it. That being said, you are still very devoted to doing what is right, unfortunately you don't have the luxury of gaining the "help" you have needed to do so.
You don't have funds to do that, and while you are doing your best to find ways to accomodate what you can to give you a break, it's just not enough.

What I have discribed in my other post is you would like to just have this play out where this man gets to stay in his home as long as possible because that is what he wants. That has been taking a toll on you. And no one around this man is appreciating your effort. And even if his daughter comes and sees how bad it really is, and you now exhausted, as I mentioned her answer will be to just put him in a home, she is only interested in the easiest solution and to go off and live her life. This visit is more of a social grace, and nothing more to her, she is not interested in any imposition, its a big deal that she is even visiting, which is more of a vacation to her with a hi dad bye dad included and come have some wine etc. However, at least she has been honest about how things were not all rosey with him growing up either.

Above all else you are a humanitarian though Rose, forgiving in nature and always humane. Within that, there is a right you have always stood loyal to, unfortunately, not enough others are the same. That is nothing to be ashamed of though Rose, please remember that.

One fundamental human need is "appreciation" Rose, I think your trip home proved refreshing in that you were appreciated by your family. I think it is sad that so many individuals don't understand that "need" too. Even a little can go a long way.

(((Respectful Caring Hugs)))
OE