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Old Oct 24, 2014, 07:28 PM
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I actually wish I was MORE like that -- I tend to internalize all of it. I think sticking up for yourself actually makes people treat you better.
I was not always like that... I was such a people pleaser. As I got older...some how I broke that spell... and felt like "I AM NOT GOING TO TAKE IT ANYMORE" Yikes - went through some angry years I'm not sure what or how I changed but sure glad I did. I'm not the favorite at my office - but they know they can count on me...and I call a spade a spade. I had a manager once tell me - "I always know where I stand with you" .
Whatever works for your life/career - may there be more good days than bad!
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Thanks for this!
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