When I first started seeing T about 7 months ago, I was completely weirded out by the relationship. I had not yet found PC and never heard of transference. One weekend, we went to see him as a family (my husband, son and myself). My son was not well at the time and T was so kind to him that I left there feeling wonderful that day. On my next session I told T that I felt so good after the family session that it made me feel better about our work together. He was so surprised that I had doubts about our work, but it was observing his interaction with another that made me able to trust him.

In the current context, whenever I call T outside of session I feel awkward about how to end the call but he accomplishes it as deftly as he accomplishes ending a session. He always says, "Well I have to go now..." And i say, well, I'll see you on Tuesday (or whenever my next appt. is). And then he softly repeats the day and time of my next session. I love hearing his voice say, "Monday at 3:15," It's a reminder that I will see him again and it is so damned comforting.