I agree, the way this therapist is handling this is bizarre and possibly illegal given mandatory reporting laws. Do confidentiality laws apply to minors? What if this was a situation where a kid really *was* being abused and this therapist is just telling the abuser about it? I'm not saying that your husband is abusing - just that this therapist really has no way of knowing for sure whether or not the kid is lying.

I don't understand why she wouldn't want the father and daughter to discuss this in a session together? Is the other parent aware?

I have no idea what you do about the immediate visit. I agree that I would want to talk about this openly with the daughter. It might be better to do that on her home turf.