My boyfriend of 14 years has been so mean to me lately. He does not talk to me, pick up the phone, even listen to a message that I leave for him. (I don't call very often) There are no more hugs, kisses or even a hello unless he wants sex. This has all started since he became "friends" with a girl who is 20 years younger than him. He drops everything for her. If she needs something he is there. Constantly calling her and now he is trying to find her a house near us. He even neglected to pick up our daughter from school because he was too busy speaking to a loan officer for her. We used to go to parties together and now he does not want me around, then I find out she is there. I didn't even know she existed until his mother who was visiting told me about her. My kids tell me she comes over the house too. I get this awful gut wrenching feeling when I know they have been together. I told him it's me or her and he just replied that I am ridiculous. He keeps calling her. He has gone out in the middle of the night to pick up her car and the list goes on and on. He started dressing nice, wearing nice smelling lotion, going to work early and going everyday(he is always late or calling out) I feel like he is sneaking around and lying about how he really feels about her. I feel like I have lost my best friend and the relationship is over. I can't eat or sleep and I get so mad...I don't know what to do. I want this to work for the kids sake.