Thanks, everyone! You're right that I can't take it back but I certainly learned from the experience and my guilt is starting to fade. As for my relationship with my sister, I have avoided speaking to her for some time. I don't text her back or call her because it always ends up in an argument and she is such a toxic person that it causes me stress. It's hard not to be angry at her when she screams at me, falsely accuses my father of pushing her to try to get him arrested, shoves my grandmother and calls her a c-word, punches her boyfriend, and constantly escapes jail time. She's also a virulent racist and anti-semite which makes me dislike her even more. What I'm struggling with is how much of her actions can be attributed to her personal accountability and decisions and how much to her mental illness? What can I hold her accountable for? Because when I treat her with too much empathy, I feel like she thinks I condone her behavior and she can continue to manipulate and abuse people. It's so hard to have empathy for someone so abusive and I feel like it's a bit of a betrayal to those she has abused. She has gone to rehab before for a brief period and did attempt suicide, which caused her to be life-flighted to a hospital 2 hours away. After she recovered, she was transferred to a voluntary drug rehab facility. She wanted someone to pick her up, but our family agreed that no one would so she would be forced stay, but she just ended up meeting a man at the rehab and going on a multi-state drug run with him. My mother is mentally ill too and we know from experience just how hard it can be to involuntarily commit someone to a mental hospital. And even when we did 302 our mother when I was in high school, she was let go after 2 weeks and nothing was accomplished! Thankfully, we involuntarily committed my mother again last year and she stayed for a few months. She's on medication now and is doing much better. And it's amazing how my sister has consistently escaped jail time. I think she's only been jailed for a total of 2 or 3 weeks when you add it all up just from awaiting bail after numerous arrests but she's never actually served time. She's been convicted of doctor shopping, receiving stolen property, disorderly conduct, trespassing, DUI, filing a false report, and shoplifting. I think it's because she's pretty, white, and puts on a good face for the judge. She just had a court date for a DUI and got mandatory AA. She also has another court date on the 29th for a different DUI. But she never learns her lesson. It's like she hasn't matured past a teenager. She feels very entitled and speaks about her arrests as if it's something terrible that just "happened" to her rather than a punishment for her actions.