Hi Bluedonna, reading your post was kind of strange, cause I was thinking well others are probably reading this thinking so big deal, she had everything. Well in some ways yes, but emotionally NO you did not. That affects kids in different ways. I think having nothing materialistic but everything in the way of love and caring makes all the difference in the world.
Consider yourself fortunate to have realized what was up with your family. That you will not make those mistakes. That you know you need loving, and caring and someone who will listen to your thoughts and wishes and want to understand and love you. Good Luck to you