I will ask her therapist on Monday if I handled it OK but in the mean time if I am doing something blatantly wrong I don't want it to happen again.

It all started a few hours ago. She was drawing on the wall with sharpie. I came downstairs and told her to go to timeout. She said no and laughed and kept drawing. I went over to her, took the marker and carried her to timeout. She would not stay for 45 minutes until she finally just sat down and got it over with. As soon as she got out of timeout she wouldn't stop kicking my window. I picked her up again and put her back in timeout. She wouldn't stop getting up and running away. I held her in front of me and told her if she didn't want a spank she should sit in timeout. She looked at me and said -I don't have to listen to you- and tried to run away again. I gave her two spanks and she sat in timeout. I tried to talk to her about why she can't draw on the wall or kick the mirror and she has her fingers in here ear saying la la la la la over and over.