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Originally Posted by rapidcyclingchica
If you haven't I would suggest researching cognitive behavioral therapy. It really hepls biild skills that can help in situations where othr people are jerks and how to get through without causing severe distress with yourself. For example even kust reminding yourself that you can't control others but you can control how you react. Not easy but worth the practice.
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I have been having that kind of therapy for years, can't say I feel it has done much at all. I guess a lot of times it seems to simplistic, too much trying to lie to yourself like stuff like telling yourself things you don't believe in the mirror.
Also I don't find reminding myself of that helps at all because the reality is I can't always control how I react...like if someone where to start verbally ripping me to shreds yeah no way in hell I would take that well or be able to take full control of my reaction and just be calm about it. If I did always have control of my reactions maybe I'd find telling myself that more helpful and less of a lie.