I will pass on the advise I gave to my step kids when their Mom was hurting them. It is okay to love her. She is your Mother. It is not okay to let her take over your life. It is not okay to let her make you miserable. Stay away from her for awhile. Let things calm down then gradually let her back in your life. It might take time but it will eventually happen. You are no good to others if you are miserable yourself.