Do you miss your Dad? Was it difficult when he passed?
I've had trouble going to funerals and such too, it started when my Grandfather died (I think) it was very cold and dreary and I've had the memory of that sort of engrained, I think. I was only thirteen or so, so I didn't sit around crying for Grandpa either, though he was my favorite person on Earth. But I really didn't like going to funerals.

Then after Granny died, I cried a lot (for her, and because of some mixed emotions - we had some disagreements before she died etc.) It was unexpectedly too and I didn't get to say goodbye. There were also some feelings of guilt etc. Some other relatives died in short timespan unexpectedly as well and it was very difficult too. I partly blamed myself for not helping them to be healthier etc.

What kind of thoughts go through your mind when you hear of someone dying or another funeral? That he was too young, and could have lived a longer life etc? Or that something could happen (hope not!) to you and loved ones unexpectedly or...?

We went to some nuns once, one of them died previously, and another said some things that might have a point, 'Let her enjoy the happiness of Heaven' or something like that.
It can be difficult to think along these lines, sometimes death can be a 'salvation/deliverance' for someone who has been eg very ill... (It can be more difficult for the ones that remain... Though people usually heal in time too...)

Day of the Dead is coming up, and I really dislike the idea of going to 5 or 6 different cemeteries with my family! But I know that if I don't go, Dad will be cranky. And I do like to see relatives. Though I don't like the questions about job/career or partner/hubby/family, which I don't have.

Good to find another person who doesn't like going to funerals and cemeteries (anymore), maybe we can find some answers to this together?
(My therapist was somewhat helpful when it came to dealing with grief about Granny, I didn't even remember to ask about dislike of cemeteries though lol!)

I'll maybe start doing EFT on this again, when my friend's brother died very young (30+) I did EFT and was able to go to funeral and was so full of energy I was almost 'too okay' there!
Have you tried EFT yet? You can learn for free online (at emofree.com and other sites, there are Youtube videos)...