Update for those interested. Wife and I met with people and drew up an agreement. We are both on the same page now. Long story short I'm living elsewhere for the time being but we are in good terms. No one wants a divorce and she is working on her end to get past some things that took place years ago. She even said divorce is not an option and that may sound untrue to a lot of people but I know that it truly isn't for her. Appreciate the concern here. I've had some bad bouts with anger and I'm not a perfect human being by any means.