thankyou for your replies

i too had a ****** childhood full of abuse and emotional crap and neglect to some extent. i know people have had worse experiences than me. i made sure to the point of my daughter not having guitar lessons on her own with a man that they were safe and secure always. i gave them love, cuddles, security. for the first time on my life i dont feel close to my daughter and the pain rips me apart. she is 18, an adult, i cant bear this feeling. so hard to let go. when she goes to university i dont know what i will do. yes she will always be my baby and so will my son, but how do you let go......? 3 years my son will be 18 already dreading it - how sad is that?

jin