Rapunzel, I would feel a lot like you if these things had happened to me. I can understand completely why you are triggered.

(((((((((((((((((((Rapunzel)))))))))))))))))))))))

I wish I was in a better place myself so I could see the other angles on things. I know that it can be my sensitive and defensive interpretations of event that make them seem all negative, and other people's interpretations can shed a more positive light on things. I hope some people here can help you with this.