My boyfriend and I are on the verge of breaking up because his feelings are not as strong as they used be. He doesn't love me as much as I love him. I feel like this happened because for the past year we have been through a pregnancy, an abortion, him getting kicked out of his house, and being in between jobs and through all these stressful situations we forgot how to love each other and care for each other the right way because I depended on him too much and the stuff he used to do for me wasn't enough anymore and he just shut down. I forgot how to take care of myself without depending on him so much.

Now I have come to the conclusion that in order for us to get our relationship back on track I need to become the person that he fell in love in with but also be a person that I like. I need to find a happy medium between the person I was before the abortion (the girl that he fell in love with) and the person I have become. Before the abortion I was strong and independent and could take care of myself but I was really good at holding things in and not letting it show that I was hurting. I kept things bottled up. After the abortion I became really needy and clingy and depended on my boyfriend way too much. I tried not to bottle things up anymore and talk to him when things were bothering me but I ended up clinging to him and not doing it the right way.

I feel like focusing on myself and trying to be the girl that he fell in love with and being a person that I like will help fix our relationship.

Any ideas, thoughts, advice?