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Originally Posted by DbryanYES
I have always tried to be a good person to people. I have always tried to do what's right by family and everyone else. But I feel that nobody truly cares how I feel. I have been flaked on, ditched, screwed, and hurt way too many times to count. I feel that I have become a doormat for everyone to step on and crapped on. I try to move on, but the memories are still vivid. No matter how many times people tell me to just get over it, I just have a hard time putting it in the past. I don't know if there is anybody who has suffered from this problem, but I want to deal with it so I can have healthy relationships with people again.
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Same. I can relate. I think it happens to sensitive people. We get hurt so deeply that we need to have time to understand why it happened, how bad it hurt, ways we can prevent feeling this way, etc. I have also been a doormat and it's not a good feeling at all. I think with time (years), things will not affect you as much as it used to. You have to consciously choose whether or not you're going to hold on and dwell about the situation /or/ choose to learn from what happened and move on to brighter days.
Also with the doormat thing, it's very very hard but learn to love who you are and be sympathetic to who you are. When you feel like you're being taken advantage of, stop. Talk to you yourself kindly and say I don't like how I am being treated right now. I won't let myself be treated badly because I want to end the pain and I deserve the best. And don't follow the orders of whoever is stepping on you.
It's a long journey. I am also working on it.
Best of luck.
