I'm torn with this right now. Getting respect is great and I'd like to reciprocate but if there's something about the other person that I don't feel comfortable with or don't like I don't want to have much to do with that person. My landlord shows me respect but some of his qualities are unbearable so I avoid him and I'm no good at handling the overall situation. He's unbearably ****-retentive and obsessive and it's suffocating. I feel like a bad person by avoiding him. I know that I have poor or odd qualities of my own and I kind of get it when people avoid me. I think we're taught that if you show respect it automatically makes you an acceptable person but there's much more to it than that, imo. Relationships are just difficult, complex and can be draining. Sometimes the other person doesn't see that the relationship is weak and draining and managing the whole thing is like trying to solve an impossible puzzle.