Hello Tracy -- So many families misunderstand depression. My mother is in her 80s, and her philosophy is still "Snap out of it" and "Don't you see how you're hurting yourself?"

Doh, yes, Mom, I do. And I would snap out of it if I could.

I do hope that you will find a therapist and a prescription doctor. A small amount of Effexor helps me avoid the crying jags, although it is not a "happy pill" by any means, and larger dose does not seem to help more than a smaller dose. It just takes the edge off.

Having a therapist to talk with is really important for me.

Coming to specific forums at Psych Central can help when I need it. Even virtual hugs feel good when one feels all alone IRL.

Keep posting, Tracy.

Hugs and hugs and hugs.