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Old Oct 28, 2014, 01:46 AM
Shadix Shadix is offline
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Thanks for the replies. He doesn't live with me, so we don't spend that much time together, but when I do spend time with him I feel uncomfortable talking about my likes or interests because of the possibility of him having a strong opinion contrary to mine. When I express a positive opinion about something that he doesn't like, he doesn't start an argument or insult me or anything like that, but he expresses his view which is usually condescending and offensive. For example, I say that a new game that is coming out looks cool, and he starts saying how he doesn't like the character designs they use and feels like those designs are made to appeal to the "typical gamer" demographic and then starts talking about the various reasons why he "can't stand" people of that demographic, among them being that he thinks they are mostly sexist males(based mainly on his interactions with a handful of these people on message boards). Despite the fact that he is into video games, he does not consider himself part of that "typical gamer" demographic based mainly on the fact that he isn't into the "mainstream" video games that they are into. Well, based on the types of games I am into, I am pretty certain I do fall into that demographic he speaking of, which is why I feel offended by his rhetoric. He has a similar category set up for people who like traditional role playing games, such as the Final Fantasy series, and he associates them with "typical anime fans", both groups which he has a negative outlook on. And despite knowing that I fall into these categories, he has often straight up started ripping on these demographics while talking to me. I try to avoid this situation because I don't know what to do when it happens. If I argue against him, I feel like I am getting defensive and this creates tension and awkwardness which I HATE, but if I don't, I feel like I am "surrendering" my own opinion and agreeing with him, which is basically abandoning my individuality. Also, he just has this way of making you feel like you are wrong. Like he picks out all the flaws in things and shines a spotlight on them, giving the impression that they really aren't that great. The reality is, people often times find a show/movie/game appealing despite it not being objectively "good" by the critics' standards. People have their own reasons for liking it and overlook the flaws. What my brother seems to do be attempting to do is tear down this "illusion" which is created by personal taste and essentially "ruin it" for the person. It is intentional to some extent, he has gloated before about how he "loves to hate things" and how he is very critical of everything. I just find it super annoying, I would prefer to just have whatever personal taste I have without having someone covertly trying to persuade me that I am wrong and should instead have the same opinion as them.

Last edited by Shadix; Oct 28, 2014 at 01:59 AM.