In school I was socially awkward and got picked on and this led to me being very timid and not putting myself out there socially. Obviously no dating or even friendships with girls. In college I met some guy friends through my religious group and started hanging out with them. But still I was too timid and stupid to put myself out there and get involved in things where I can meet girls. I kept hanging out with that small group of friends and didn't really broaden my horizons like people do in college. I also did not think seriously about my career path and ended up doing premed like everyone else and failed at it. Now after spending a total of 6 years in college I am 26 and I have a biology/psychology degree with crappy GPA. I basically can't get a job in my field because of how damn selective everyone is and I am working at a crappy call center where you don't even need a college degree to work. And because of my very limited social circle, I have practically no social life. For about two years now I have been just going to work and coming home and getting on my laptop of playing video games, and just repeating the cycle.
I am so sick of this life. When I compare it to college life it feels like death. And with the crappy job it's like death and going to hell. I am wanting to find a new field and go back to school, but I just don't see any avenues for me to explore career new opportunities. Basically it seems the opportunity to do that is only offered to college kids and someone in my position is expected to just give it up and settle for whatever they can get. I looked into this career counseling thing where they do tests to determine what career is right for you and give you info about different career areas, but they charge over $800 for it!
I am also paralyzed with fear. I have an obsession with getting a chance to connect with girls I am attracted to, like guys around me have doing since high school. But I am going to be 27 in a few months and I feel like I am leaving that "peak attractiveness" phase and that soon many of the younger women I want to connect with will be off limits. I am powerless to make anything happen now because no cute girl wants a loser my age who works at a call center. But choosing another career path will likely take time and I am afraid that by the time I get to the point where I am in a good position careerwise, I will be in my 30s and most of the attractive young women I am interested in connecting with will be off limits. This fear is preventing me from doing anything because I can't seem to think seriously about what career path I want without worrying about the time frame.
Is there any way out of this? I literally feel like a person who asks for things and is repeatedly told no despite patiently accepting no for an answer time and time again. And the person saying no gives no justification for their answer, it is just as if they are doing it because they can. It is sick and sadistic and this is how people and society are.
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