The way I see it, the person telling you 'no' is you. If you need someone else to give you some direction, here is my offering: Get counseling to address your anxiety. It appears to be at the root of your difficulties.

When you and the counselor think you are ready to make some additional changes, look into careers. Your public library will be helpful. The internet can provide information. Don't pay for any career counseling until you have exhausted what you can do for free.

You've got the cart way before the horse with regard to women. It sounds like you have done considerable fantasizing about women. But an important reminder is any young, cute women in your desired age range will become an older woman with time. Are you planning to chase young chicks all your life? These sorts of expectations can also be explored with a counselor.

A man of good, healthy appearance and fine character and with a solid career path will never have trouble finding attractive women unless he is living where there is no woman!

Courage! I hope this helped