Glad to hear you were able to speak to a shelter today!
When I was dealing with court stuff with my ex (VROs as well as him breaching bail conditions and stalking me) i was able to apply for my address to be kept off his copies of documents and not read aloud. It's perfectly reasonable to want to protect your privacy while getting a VRO, and the court should respect that. I don't recall how to go about it but I went through a family violence service which was attached to the courthouse and they did the paperwork etc for me. Do you have a service like that where you are?
Best of luck xo