I could say a lot about this situation, but maybe it'll suffice to say I feel very worried about you staying is this relationship. The previous posters offered good advice.

Please try to get out of this situation as soon as you can. I don't know if you have a lease or what. If he won't leave, it would be a good idea to start planning on moving yourself as soon as that's possible. Yes, that's a pain in the neck, but this relationship will only get worse. Unfortunately, it's become mutually abusive, with him acting like an emotional jerk and you punching him for it. Not good.

Even if you love him ... this is not a healthy relationship. Both of you may need to get help with your individual problems. It's not unusual for me to suggest couples counseling when a relationship is in trouble, but I can't see how this love affair is worth saving. Please take care of yourself. You deserve more than a life of emotional abuse.

I wish you strength and courage. That's what a woman needs to extricate herself from the push-pull of an abusive relationship.