I'm in the same boat at you. Due in January and always envisioned myself as having a boy(s) as I have a horrible relationship with my Mom.

When I found out it was a girl it brought up a lot of resentment, fear and concern-- all associated with the relationship I had with my Mom.

Here's the bottom line....

You are not your Mom and your daughter is not you (or your Mom). Our identity comes in part from our upbringing and relationships, but it is also influenced by other factors such as life experiences, self help work, and values and beliefs.

ALready you are conscientious of the relationship you do not want to have with your child. This is an excellent start.

One of the most beautiful things about humanity is our capacity to change. Just because you may have had a bad relationship with your Mom doesn't mean that this has to be perpetuated on to the next generation. You are a capable, aware adult that is able to respond differently than how you may have been taught or acted in the past.

As a woman, I am choosing to be happy to have the opportunity to raise up another woman in a new way, different from my own past. I hope to empower her, teach her self respect and respect for others. I am choosing to see the birth of a girl not as a recycling of the past but a new opportunity and a new entirely different and separate experience.

Hope this helps and try not to over think things as your pregnancy develops.