I want to address this issue about recovery, since some here may be experiencing devastating loss and hurt.
I have experienced this several times myself over the past 10 years since my divorce. Each time I felt totally crippled by emotional pain and it took immense will to just put one foot in front of the other, to go about the duties of my job as a teacher, and to have the most minimum life.
I am here to tell you that time will heal you, if you work at it!

After a 20 year unhappy marriage, I thought it was my time, and time to find fulfillment. It didn't happen and with each failed relationship, it took me a good three years to recover.
I did seek counseling in the first two. With the third, I just came here to PC...feeling humiliated and devastated.

I can tell you now, anyone who is hurting, that you WILL eventually heal. One wants it to go away immediately. It doesn't. I liken it to a physical wound, maybe worse though, as it took me a very long time to stop obsessing on what I did wrong...why it failed, why the person wasn't as reciprocal as I was in devotion. When it finally starts to pass, and you begin thinkng about other things, living your life again, feeling good about yourself, it is a blessing.

I guess my point in posting this is that TIME is the great healer.

Love
Patty