Hi Rap,
I think that fence needs to go up a.s.a.p.- I hope that you can afford one-a big, tall one that you cannot see through. How rude those neighbors are. Next time the dog comes near you or your dogs grab the cell phone and call the police and tell them that your neighbor's dog is attacking YOU. They'll have to come over and take care of it. Better yet, tell them that they are attacking your kids. The cops absolutely HAVE to respond to that.
Try that, Rap.
Can you talk to your therapist about your insecurities and how you're feeling? You have to otherwise, you may have to get a new therapist. Aren't you supposed to feel secure and safe with a therapist? Well, this one isn't offering that to you and you may be better off with one who does. But try talking to her first.