At least there will be a face to face meeting of someone in his family and a staff person from the VA . . . a meeting that I'll witness. I feel this brings the family a little more into the loop. If me helping him manage his care at home starts to become an unworkable situation, then I can tell the VA and the family that they need to work something else out. And I still have a contingency plan of leaving town to visit my family, while someone does something. I guess I feel that's my safety hatch.