Hello, I thought I had subscribed to this thread to receive email notifications but it doesn't look like it. Anyway, this weekend I took a trip about 400 km far away from my home and spent it with a girl.

Long story short, on saturday we hugged each other and kissed, and on sunday she used the exact same korean word (무뚝뚝하다) against me. Saying I'm cold when I speak my language with her and my glance is cold sometimes as well. So that day she refused to kiss me, but we kept hugging a bit and held hands. It's hard for me to understand the situation, as I often need an opinion from other people. With her I often smiled and tried to laugh when necessary. But the last day I felt really exhausted, as I was so far away from home and I felt like I needed to be there. So I could barely ask her anything, my answers were abrupt and I felt like I had nothing going through my mind. But I don't know exactly what I can associate it to.

When she said I was cold, I thought it was a good idea to try to hug more, but I'm afraid I looked a bit clingy ?

Another thing is on sunday evening she invited me to eat with her friends and I didn't know any of them, so I felt ill at ease. I could barely talk, had nothing in mind, and at a point one of her friends said "did you smoke a joint ? are you drunk ? you look faded". I just replied I was shy.

I think one of the source of the problem is that I may be too self conscious. It's as if I could see myself from the eyes of other people and I didn't want to see myself change my expression too much in the fear of becoming ridiculous.