I wish I had a good answer. I live in the same town with two of my three siblings. I don't have any contact with one of them...it exacerbates my depression because as children we were close and I don't like that we have not communicated.

Relationships are tough..even tougher when you're depressed. There is such a withdrawal into the self with depression, at least for me there is. I get too introspective, then that leads to self-criticism, which lowers and already low self-esteem.

I just realized I didn't respond to the what would anyone else have done...I think I would have done the same, and put the ball in her court...as I've done with my sibling.

I do think that sometimes it is other people that hold the grudge, it's just that depression, at least for me, makes it seem like everything is our fault.