Zinco you just may be my new hero
"What I learned though was that everywhere I went there I was. I brought all the characteristics both good and bad that I had adopted as a child and young man with me. I didn't escape the labels of alcoholism, enmeshment, scape goat, rescuer, peacemaker, whatever. It took a lot of self examination and hard work deciding which characteristics, values, behaviors, etc. I wanted to adopt as my own. Many of them were things my parents taught me and I chose to call my own. Many I did not want and worked to get rid of them. We do have a choice but it takes awareness. Awareness can be your most powerful ally."
But I would like to modify this for my signature

I spent a number of years blissfully unaware, drinking, drugging, unhealthy relationships, unconscious patterns of behavior that were not good for me. ......
so much for the good old daze