I just came across yr post. I'm so sorry for yr loss. I can totally relate. My mom died of cancer in June of this year...so it wasn't dementia but we had no connection and she was very emotionally abusive to me. I feel more free too but I also suffer from guilt for feeling that way. Yr not alone at all...feel free to pm me if you want to talk. I'm here to support and be an ear to listen. Take care.