Look up the "Wheel of violence" Read The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans and consider counseling for yourself. you don't owe him anything, but you DO owe yourself a life of respect and no violence. It took me 31 years to leave; that book saved my life. Abusers are insecure and will do whatever it takes to keep control of the victim. He needs to go to therapy by himself. Yu cant put your life on hold; educate yourself...xo