Oh man, I really do feel for you and wish I could help! I think the main thing is that the judge really understands your present inability to support yourself in the way that is fair and equitable based on the amount of time you spent in the marriage. MAKE NOTES!! Have them read to the judge with a copy right in front of her face if possible.
I am presently in PA but am leaving here before your hearing or I swear I'd show up for you!!!
My daughter and I are currently renting a home here which will become available the middle of November. The rent is 1K but I think the owners could be talked down and it is rather large, so you could have a roommate and be quite comfortable.The neighborhood is nice! PM me if you think you might want me to talk to the owner about it for you.