@sophiesmom: I'm less concerned about my heart and more her comfort but I see where you're coming from. I know she doesn't reciprocate my feelings but I don't feel like our relationship is in any way one-sided. She's a very caring and affectionate friend (which is part of why I have feelings for her in the first place).

@christina: my T is aware of our sleeping arrangement, I'm not really sure what's going through his head about that. But you raise a good point, if for example my sister had said she was doing something like this I would express concern about the situation...

@factory poet: the idea of her dating someone doesn't bother me at all. Not just because we're not "together" in that way, I've been in poly relationships before so if she had wanted to do something like that when we were together I would have been fine with it. With that situation, I'm more worried it would lead to her deciding to leave. I would never kick her out without anyplace else to go, but she's had so many different living situations in the past couple years (including homelessness...) I would hate for her to have to move yet again because of me.

=( I obviously have a lot I need to take up with my T about this. I was hoping my fears were just anxiety, especially since she doesn't seem to concerned when I bring them up, but clearly they are real issues that need dealing with.