He is giving off too many mixed signals ...

I can't tell you what you should or shouldn't do cos I am not qualified to do that ... lol, I don't think ANYONE can tell another person what to do in a relationship.

It is easy for me to sit here and go yes, you should do this or that ... it seems like you have the right idea though, to get your own life up and running again maybe with a job if you're interested in doing that, and him going off on his 3 weeks ... maybe that will be good for you both.

If I were you, and obviously I'm not, I wouldn't focus on the 'make him want me' aspect. Cos to me that implies throwing yourself a bit, and that's not always that cool.

Maybe you could just give him a little treat or two along the way .... not expensive, just something he likes, if it's a massage or something yum you cook ... try and reduce / minimise any drama ... don't push him where possible.

Maybe after he comes back from his time away you can be more straight forward, if you want to be then.

Remember you do not deserve to spend your life walking on eggshells. It is not a fun life for you.

I don't know babe, all I can do is offer best wishes and I hope it works out for the best for you ...