I think youre on the right track momma. I've been there before and have friends that are walking posterchildren of love addicts. I mean really though, who doesn't want to feel love and accepted. At the core of human desire is the need to belong, to be cherished and appreciated. So it would only make sense that we seek out these kinds of relationships and sometimes to the point where it becomes unhealthy.

Be patient with yourself as you walk through the process of recalibrating and gaining some strength.

Have you read the book "co-dependency no more" by melodie beattie. It's for people who are co-dependant but it has a lot of really really wicked advice for the everyday person who wants to better themselves and has a lot of excellent tips. It might be worth checking out especially to help out with #4 - attachment issues.