We go towards the things that seem familiar and comfortable. Finding a 'better' partner will probably be really uncomfortable or feel awkward at the start. Dating a healthy balanced partner may cause you to consider if it was the right decision or make you long for the 'bad boy' who will drink himself into oblivion and swear at you.

Here's the secret-- you can choose who you attract by how you react to their advances and behaviour. Ultimately you set the standard for how you want to be treated. When someone crosses the line you can choose to accept their behavior or not.

The truth is, balanced healthy relationships are sometimes without the excitement and chaos and edgyness of disfunctional ones and this can be hard to adjust to at the start. If you can work through it, bear with it and give a healthy but less colourful guy a shot at dating you then you will likely find new take aways from a relationship and will find that long term you are getting what you want and need out of those relationship more than you did from the previous somewhat crazier ones.

The key is riding things out at the start and looking for guys that give you butterflies instead of thunderbolts.

Oh the other part of this is, is that you'll probaby have to wait a little longer than you did in the past to find a suitable partner. That's goes back to the rules of quality over quantity. You'll have to weed out a few frogs before you track down a prince.