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Old May 09, 2007, 10:13 AM
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I don't know that it's transference; someone thought of you! That's nice by itself and not related to anyone else besides you and the person who thought of you. Sounds like the beginning of a good working relationship to me.

I believe transference has to be worked through, doesn't matter whether it's positive or negative; if it doesn't "belong" in the actual relationship between you and your T it needs to be seen for what it is. It doesn't matter if you loved your mother because she gave you cookies and milk every afternoon after school and your T offers you a cookie. . . she's not your mother!

But your T thinking of you while reading something, that's what T's do I think; they have to think of us in order to work with us, we have "substance" and make an impression on them, personally; they usually don't have to ask us our names anew each week :-) It's not one way, T's think of us just like we think of them only differently.
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