I’m very sorry that you are going through this.

As a women, I’ll say that I went through this myself (in my 20’s & 30’s). I am older now and single. I look back now and can see that my needs sexually weren’t being met. My first husband was my first experience. He was very experienced. He knew how to satisfy himself, but never gave me a thought. And I was willing to try different things. I was left disappointed and over time became not interested in sex at all with him or anyone else. You add kids, work, house work, etc. and life gets tiring.

Being intimate is a hard topic to discuss, but in my recent relationship, I found that being honest about what I need to be fulfilled is as important as him being satisfied. Just having him help vacuum, cook or do the dishes (split the chores), made me feel desired. Having him touch me while we were watching tv, just a gentle constant rub on my arm, back or leg made me feel desirable to him.

With that being said, if she’s not able or willing to talk to you about these things, there’s not much you can do. Therapy could help. Hormones could be in play. She could be just down right tired. Just try to be honest, ask her what she needs or wants from you to feel desirable. It takes an effort on both your parts to make things work.

Good luck.