I’m sorry you are going through this.

No one deserves to be treated like this. I agree with Healingme4me, a good dad or a good husband doesn’t control, manipulate, threaten nor tell his wife to go to hell.

I know from experience that taking the step to make things better for you is a hard one. My first husband was very controlling, jealous, called me names and even got physical a few times. I had to step back and take an honest hard look at my life. I had two kids, no money and scared to death to be on my own. But I am a good person, a good mother, a good wife and I deserve to be treated better. I deserve better for my kids. I know that I can do better for myself and be happier with myself if I truly believe I deserve it. Yes it was the hardest decision I made, I was scared to death, but I made that step. And I’ve had my struggles, but it made me stronger and more confident. It gave me a bigger sense of self worth and gave my kids the understanding that we all deserve to be healthy and happy and be treated with dignity and respect. It’s not ok to treat those we love so badly and as they grow up into adults, they need to have the same courage to say it’s ok if I stand up for myself, I am a good person and deserve it.

You deserve better. Don’t let him saving you in the past (portraying Prince Charming) negate the fact that he is nothing close to a prince if he treats you the way he is.

You may not want to listen to your dad, but with age comes wisdom and experience. Ask yourself, would you be ok with your child being in a relationship like this? Divorce isn’t the end of the world. Your kids will grow up and leave, you have to be happy yourself! Think of the example you are setting for your kids. Are you telling them it's ok to be treated this way or to treat someone else this way, or are you saying you deserve better because you are a good person.

Good luck.