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Originally Posted by jzq20m
I think part of the problem is the way she presents her concerns. When she asks me for my opinion on how to proceed with a certain aspect of a project, the conversation can suddenly progress to a criticism of my opinion. If I'm able to keep my emotions under control, and can really listen to what she is saying, her ideas or criticisms really don't make sense. (Unfortunately, my usual reaction is to go into a shame spiral for having expressed such a stupid opinion and I vow never to speak again!)
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This sounds very difficult, as if any opinion, advice or direction anyone says becomes a target for a rather non-constructive attitude. Nothing to do with you certainly. I think this is something your boss should pick up on, and if asked keep it strictly professional about your relationship with this person and no more. As this person is newly employed I assume there is a probation period before the post is confirmed?
I specialise in asking stupid questions, as after all you are only one question more idiotic than all the other fools!
When you get answers that make no sense I like to take a deep breath, swallow the anger/despair and say that it is not quite clear what they are saying and would they like expand, and let them dig a deeper hole - sooner or later they will get the message.