I already tried to settle THREE times but he refused! And he got mad bc i moved put the house (it sold in less than two months) without doing anything he keep asking me to do: to sell all the house contents at auction, or compensate him in the amount of $20,000, or compensate him for the mortgage he paid during my staying at the house, and so on... Well, his demands were so outrageous and disproportionate, that I kept asking myself how could his lawyer let him proceed with his demands!!! I'm contemplating going for another settlement but I'm pretty sure that he's going to refuse again bc it will look like that I'm afraid, and he'll want to take advantage of this... Since I don't have any idea what a reasonable alimony is like, I don't know if I'm asking too much, but to give you an idea, my ex told me around the first half of 2012 that finally we could consider ourselves in the ''six figures'' bracket, although he earned almost ten times as much as I, but in my view, we could finally say that we got what we wanted and where we wanted to be at this point in life: successful kids, a good house, good jobs, solid relationship... or so I thought. There was nothing I could do to make him realize how much he was going to lose: of course, he already was beyond this, had already mulled his decision during three/ four months... and that was it.