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Originally Posted by curley
Hi Bluedonna, reading your post was kind of strange, cause I was thinking well others are probably reading this thinking so big deal, she had everything. Well in some ways yes, but emotionally NO you did not. That affects kids in different ways. I think having nothing materialistic but everything in the way of love and caring makes all the difference in the world.
Consider yourself fortunate to have realized what was up with your family. That you will not make those mistakes. That you know you need loving, and caring and someone who will listen to your thoughts and wishes and want to understand and love you. Good Luck to you
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Hi Curley,
I was re-reading this thread and your point about material possessions and little or no validation and emotional support compared to having very little material possessions with love and caring, validation, etc. - all the emotional and mental support children need in order to grow into well adjusted adults - results in emotional neglect/abuse in the former and healthier children/adults in the latter.
I find that to be a very profound distinction I have never considered before. I've known/worked with many children who were severely emotionally damaged from upstanding families most people believe to be 'normal' and no one questioned about what was happening 'behind closed doors'. It seems it's easier to consider the child to be either attention-seeking or corrupted by outside influences.
I have also worked with kids from broken homes and/or foster care and/or extreme poverty who were happy, polite, well-adjusted and a joy to be around.
I just never thought about the contrasts in socioeconomics as being part of the puzzle when it comes to child emotional neglect. Thanks for pointing this out for me.
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