I'm sorry you ate feeling that therapy hadn't really been helpful. Outside of a brief therapy model, many are meant to take some time. Ultimately however, the time frame is up to you. If you feel as if therapy is stalling, you might want to talk to your therapist apt it. As said above, if you don't want to cry through a session, bring it up with t. At best you can come to an understanding of your expectations for therapy. At worst, you can agree to find a new t.

The thing they underscore in school is that a therapist/clinician is one of the few professions that would prefer to have their client-pool dry up. I know it's not true of all therapists, but most are not going into it for money.

(Also, I agree that crying can be healing. I wish I could actually cry).