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Originally Posted by Nature1968
I don't know if you have ever heard of Sexual anorexia ? But this sounds like what your having .
If your husband dose not see it as a problem then you got big problems , because this means nothing is going to change and you have to just go without sex .
Marriage is 50/50 and if he's not doing his part then it makes it harder for you and you will feel cheated in your marrige .
You really only have to choices as he isn't willing to change ..
Deal with it or leave him .
But it sounds like you married a friend not a lover and sometimes marring a best friend is not always so great there is no passion .
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I looked up intimacy anorexia because I had never heard of it before, and I think you nailed it. I already knew that he had Avoidant issues, but this really and truly explains this particular problem. I guess I had better start re thinking this marriage because I don't see him being willing to change any time soon. And what you said about marrying a best friend; while it is true that we are good friends, I feel a great deal of passion for him but he doesn't seem able to reciprocate. Over the years, I realize that when he talks to other women, he sounds exactly the same as when he talks to me. So I don't think he is capable of intimacy.