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Old Nov 01, 2014, 08:06 PM
BanaBanaBana BanaBanaBana is offline
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Well now my sister has HELPED bail him out and is letting him stay at our house while we are visiting our parents. I know I could turn him in but I don't want to burn my bridge to my sister. Obviously if she is in physical danger I WILL call the police but right now I feel like we're in some weird limbo.
She feels SO guilty and everything I thought she was starting to believe last night seems to have gone out the window. I think it's the "being deported" thing that is sending her over the edge. It's so final. I personally think it's good but not for the reasons she's accusing me of. I saw what the relationship was doing to her. She has been so miserable. Last night she was talking about how J used to yell at the baby and today is all about what a good father he is.
I don't know how to help. My mom is trying too but my sister is getting so defensive. Last night she was talking about how she thinks he brainwashed her and today she has forgotten all about that. I know this is probably "textbook victim" but how can I make her see that? She says we are too biased and off course we are going to take her side and that she is not blameless. I truly think she needs to see some kind of therapist or support group but she is so stubborn but I think the opinion of someone who is not family will help but she is also so stubborn that I wouldn't be surprised if the first time they say something that she doesn't like that she will quit it.
I have to say thank you for the support! This is just a hard situation and I am so lost at how to handle it. I'm in over my head.